The Power of Coming Out By Various Contributors
The LGBTQIA+ community is full of love and trust for all. Having a welcoming environment is half the battle while embracing one’s true self is the other. Unfortunately, it can be difficult and anxiety-inducing for those struggling to identify a place within our community. What advice do you have for those in the community who are not “out” in their community due to fear or anxiety? If you could give advice to those in fear of coming out, what would you say?
Next Portion by Jordan James (he/him)
It is important to find a support system. This can be a trusted friend, family member, or even a therapist. It is also helpful to connect with other members of the LGBTQIA+ community, either online or in person, to find others who have gone through similar experiences. Remember that coming out is not a one-time event, and it is okay to take things one step at a time. It is important to prioritize your safety and well-being and to come out when you feel ready and in control. To those who are already out and proud, it is important to be an ally and offer support to those who may not be as open. By creating a safe and welcoming space for everyone, we can continue to build a stronger and more inclusive LGBTQIA+ community. Lastly, it is important to remember that coming out is a personal decision, and everyone should do it in their own time and on their own terms.
Next Portion by Kaitlyn Ledzian (she/her)
Growing up with a last name that rhymes with lesbian, coming out was nothing but a struggle for me. I never felt fully comfortable coming out to anyone until my late teen years. A sense of self is something I’ve always struggled with. Whether it be who I was, what I felt or how I presented myself, I was always concerned with other people’s perceptions of me. I’ve come to realize in my late twenties, that I am ME and there will only ever be one me. I am proud of who I have become, and who my future self will be. My advice to anyone questioning or wanting to come out would be to live your life regardless of what people think. Come out to a trusted individual no matter who that may be. Find your own safe space and create your own “family” if you need to. You are you for a reason, and no one can take that away from you. Love yourself first, always.
Next portion by Cassie Schipani (she/her)
When considering the fear of coming out as LGBTQIA+, it’s important to first acknowledge that YOU are VALUED, and there is nothing wrong with you! You simply are who you are, and that is beautiful! That being said, it’s important to consider your circumstances (family/friends/etc.) to determine whether you’re in a safe environment and situation to do so. Your safety is paramount! If you’re living with parents that are openly hostile towards queer people, it might be a good idea to wait it out until you are in a safer situation to tell them. Those around you that love you will love you for you, no matter what that may be. Also, don’t underestimate the perceptiveness of those closest to you. You might be surprised to see that they’re not as surprised by your coming out as you might expect. In the end, those that truly care about you and value you won’t see you any differently, and if I’ve learned one thing in my trans/queer journey -- family isn’t defined by blood.